HOW TO FEEL BETTER EMOTIONALLY

Some basics of emotional processing involve letting yourself feel to heal. Give yourself permission to feel those feelings, to exert them. If someone is talking to you and you ignore them, they get louder. Your emotions react in the same way, so you must give your attention to observing your emotions.

After you have felt those emotions, you then need to take yourself out of those emotions. For example, if you write down all the things you’re feeling or going through you want to end that journal with “here is all the things I am grateful for”. After this you can be in a better head space because you have vented all your frustrations and emotions down on paper. You can also do this with memories.

If a child spills milk and if you say “don’t cry over that” they won’t feel better. However, if you validate “oh that sucks you spilt milk, but you can get more” they learn to heal. Validate your feelings and then look at the positive emotions. Do not allow yourself to sit with the negative feeling for long, make sure to shift your feelings to a more positive emotion. This is a way to help you feel better faster.

You can meditate to help you observe your emotions and process what you are feeling. Then focus on your breathing and shift your thoughts to the feelings of relaxion. Venting can be helpful as well, but make sure you end your vent with something positive.

If you are experiencing trauma, it is best to talk to someone about it, this can be helpful, so you are not working through this alone. With feelings that are very intense you don’t want to try and navigate these on your own, seeking a therapist can help work through these emotions in a healthy way. If you see a therapist and you don’t like them, it is absolutely okay to find a new one!